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Once I started reading Rumi and writing about him everyday, I was “burnt and then I as cooked,” as he once said. His words, his tenderness, and his teachings pierced my soul to its depths. I felt his truths in my core: We are here on this planet for our own and others’ soul-growth. Forgiveness, compassion, and love for all of the human family must be our goal; identifying and committing to the contribution we’re here to make is our greatest privilege. “Love is the religion, a

My work is loving the world! My work is being astonished at the beauty of the natural world, and the human world--its pockets of misery not withstanding. My work is fostering empathy between couples--helping them to open their eyes to the luminous child in themselves and each other. Far from least, my work is speaking loudly in favor of the re-invention of sexuality. In this new sexuality, everyone is included--the young, the old, the disabled, gay, bi, non-binary, transgende

Let me have just one more day, let me have this day and let it not be my last. Let me have just one more day to feel the sap in the...

Welcome to the first SEX SOLUTIONS blog post. I'm Dr. Victoria Lee, psychologist and sex therapist. I want us all to re-invent sex for the 21st century. I want to help you replace performance anxiety with self-acceptance and with creating a no-fail zone in your bedroom. If your heart longs for an intimate life that is more joyful and satisfying than ever before, this site is meant for you. With over 25 years experience assisting couples of all kinds, I know for sure that good

Thanksgiving, Christmas, and milestone birthdays were the highlights of my childhood. The holidays were gatherings of everyone we were related to; as an only child, seeing my crowd of cousins was the best part, but I enjoyed my uncles and aunts and grandparents too. Everyone was so nice, so affectionate, so ready to have fun. The way to express affection to a girl (after a big hug) was to tell her she was pretty--pretty dress, pretty hair--"too skinny though--we'll have to ma

When I was a little girl, my Aunt Ann was someone I always knew and loved. I knew her first as a young woman who played the piano, encouraged me in my music, and taught me Amazing Grace and many other songs. Thanksgiving and Christmas were always big family events where every family member old and young was present. Ann and my mom and my aunt Reba took turns hosting, and helping out whoever was hosting. All the women contributed their best dishes. As kids, our job was to have

Dear friends have just learned that their beloved young German Shepherd has a probably fatal disease. Their friends share their grief for this beautiful, exceptional animal, though we cannot know the depths of their sorrow; they raised her from being a small puppy, hiked deep into the Sierras with her, romped with her in the snow, watched her in joy at the beach, and exchanged the love only dog lovers know with her every day and night. This morning I woke up from a dream in w